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I didn’t know I was going to do an article on love so close to Valentine’s Day, and I must say it actually isn’t on purpose.  But I believe I tune into the group consciousness when writing these articles, and what is on the group “mind”.  So, of course, different insights have come through this week about love…specifically love in relationship. And oh, I feel the fire this article may bring up in people.  If that happens, then please see this as a means for something to clear.  Of course, these are my thoughts and feelings and I own them as that. Whatever resonates, take it with you, and what doesn’t, discard.

When we begin to open our heart deeper and deeper to love someone, I believe there are different phases.  There is phase one, where we must get past obvious fears of the human condition: fear of abandonment, trust issues, and vulnerability.  When we stay present with what comes up with our loved ones, and continue to examine, “where is what is happening about me and my wounds?”, we make it through phase one with flying colors!

Phase 2 is peace. It is where all is well and many things have been sorted out.  It is balance and the calm after the storm.  It is a period where you reap the benefits of healed wounds through the love of your beloved and the self.

Just when you think you have it figured out, phase 3 comes along.  Phase 3 are the hidden places where fear resides.  It is the places you didn’t know existed and it may cause people to mistake this for “something not being right”.  I see many clients come to me in this phase where they think the person they are with, is missing certain aspects they like in a partner, or they decide when they finally have what they want, now they want their freedom, and the list goes on and on. It is the phase of dissatisfaction.  If you make it through this phase, it is hopefully because you see that everything you desire in someone else, is what you are desiring within yourself to achieve. Either that or you are tolerating and not enjoying your experience.

Many partners (especially female) will desire to be taken care of more financially.  They will feel frustrated about struggling in this way and make it about their partner.  When you ask yourself the question, “do you feel financially free personally?” and the answer is no, then it means it is time for you to dig deep and cultivate your gifts to bring abundance into your life.

Phase 3 is also about seeing the deep core feeling that many of us on this planet have about not being lovable enough to be worthy of having someone stay for a lifetime. We make it about the other person, so that we do not have to look deep within our own fears of not being enough.  We make problems up about the other people so we do not have to face the deep feeling of core unworthiness of Source/ God’s love. This fear is covert and not obvious. It will show up in the form of feeling “trapped” or feeling like you are drawn to something else. Many people end up cheating in this phase or asking for my favorite in the new age community: the open relationship.  Oooh, I know I am stirring the pot mentioning this one.

The open relationship works for some, but in my counseling of 100’s of people and over 1000 sessions, those in open relationship usually cease to survive them.  There are the rare few that utilize them to truly understand unconditional love and letting go of ownership paradigms, but most truly go into them from deep fear of true intimacy and even a history of sexual abuse.  I can honestly say that 99% of people I have worked with that choose the open relationship have had sexual abuse.  Why is this?

It is because being sexualized at a young age brings about a feeling of confusion of lovability equaling those that give them sexual affection.  This means there is a constant feeling of wanting to be engaged in constant stimulation from people to feel loved.  When true intimacy hits, meaning the real crap comes up, that is when suddenly they long for someone else.  Intimacy in their lives started out without boundaries, without safety, even if it was enjoyable for them. This is very confusing when developing sexuality.

So I share this all because I see how common failed love affairs are, I see how easy it is to give up, and I see how many people in the name of 5D reality shun away from committed, lifelong partnership.  I call in for all who struggle with these things a healing today even if it is not for lifelong partnership, and simply to feel deep love and connection.    I summon the beings of light that is YOU  and I, and the beings that watch over this planet to impulse the violet flame through any nook and cranny that any of us as a group consciousness holds within our vibration related to this, and then I ask it to spread around Earth now.  I call this in so in our own perfect way, we may have a clearing to experience true intimacy with others, whether it be sexual in nature or not.  I summon this so we may transcend the pain of our planets past miscreations and become victorious in the name of love.  I summon this so that we may speak to people we meet with authenticity and acceptance even if just meeting for a short conversation; I command this to be so, so we may not hide under the shroud of fear of not being worthy of love and acceptance.  We are ONE.

And so it is.

Ariah Velasquez

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Blessings,

Ariah

 

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Positive energies prevail this full moon, particulary around projects you may have been working on bringing into fruition. A Capricorn full moon has the power to bring  to us the support we have been needing to fuel our most potent, passionate dreams. The way to bring about the most change from this moon has to do with going into your own dream space within to create.  It is a highly spiritual time today in which you can manifest from ones inner alchemy.

Why is this important?  Well, your whole reason for being in body is to carry out the mission of your soul.  When the planetary energies align to help you with this it is time to pay attention, for the more you achieve your soul mission, the less incomplete you will feel.  Fulfilling your souls longing brings you to a state of peace, and peace is truly what will bring about joy in your day to day life.  When you are at peace, you are in joy for there is no neuroticism when you are peaceful.  There is no worry, or anxiety, there is just peace and emptiness.  When I say emptiness, I mean the emptiness that rests in the divine state of oneness with Source. Let this full moon amplify your ability to feel complete so that you may then truly be of more service to all that is.  It is in this service to the whole that you will experience pure bliss.

Pay attention to the few weeks following the full moon to see what you have created.  Do not forget to focus on what you have, always, and do not be blind to your creations by looking at where you still wish for growth.  Own what you have created and your own personal ability to be that creator for the more you acknowledge your sovereignty as a divine being, the more the Universe will respond to you as just that.

Another powerful aspect of this full moon is the potential to feel deeply.  The alignment today supports you to deeply understand yourself. Ask the energies to help this deep insight and understanding to bring you the healing you have been needing for those areas that have been blind spots or areas where you get tripped up repeatedly.   The fact that you are reading this obviously shows you are deeply committed to healing.  You would not have been drawn here if you were not, so trust that the healing is coming for you.  The right people are being summoned now to help, and your own nature and truths are being assisted now for powerful illumination.

With Light,

Ariah Velasquez

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This months theme has truly been around money for many. Money can be a beautiful exchange of energy or it can be a control device. Money may give a false sense of power, grandiosity, or the flip side can represent freedom.  Money can make people feel like the hero or the savior to others, but then can end up enabling those to not feel their full power.  Money can build the ego and cause it to think you need certain things that go along with lots of money, the clothes, the traditional beautiful people, and the false sense that others should give respect to you because you hold the key to freedom in this world supposedly.  However, respect comes deeply to those who truly respect and love themselves no matter what they have materialized on the outside.

I am amazed at how illusionary money power can cause people to be blind  to themselves and their issues.  To truly see ourselves, we need to be able to hear truth without defensiveness or resistance. In fact, if you hear something and immediately feel a visceral response to defend inside the body, chances are there is some truth to what is being said to you.

I listened to a video recently with Yogi Bhajan speaking, and let me tell you he is fierce when he speaks. Not sweet at all! He was speaking to the group about how the neuroticism of people cause them to constantly judge and pick on the things he says.  Those listening to spiritual insights immediately want to jump in and say, that is not true, or this is true.  Why not sit in the neutral mind and receive, absorbing whatever wishes to awaken something that needs conscious love?  Why react with anger to prove that you are ok, against what is heard?

Those whose life is consumed by making money, may very well make it, but there is another way to make it that will bring you much more fulfillment: LOVE and GROUNDING TO SOURCE. The grounding is especially important because the LOVE without grounding equals flakiness.  Love with grounding equals knowing of your worth, feeling tremendous self-love, that it overflows and pours out not only to those you speak to, but also pours out as ENERGY which attracts, more energy including money.  Speaking love, does not always mean sweetness.  It can be, but sometimes words need to be fierce.  Sometimes when people are in deep illusion and ego, you need to speak words loudly or intensely with no more sugar coats.  This is my lineage way.

This week, take a look at your relationship to money.  How does it consume you? How does it build you and add to your life, and how does it detract?  Ask in at least 3,  11 minute meditations to see yourself clearly and how money plays itself out in your life.

-Simply sit quietly, and call your higher self in.

-Then ask for 3 images to appear in your minds eye as information about your relationship to money.

-When the images appear, see if you can come up with 3 faulty beliefs that you are holding in the mind and body that are detracting from your fullness around money.

– For example, is there a belief that you must continue to work a certain job? Or is there judgments about how others should act with money?  Judgements and triggers about other people are information for yourself.  Clear these beliefs through finding where they rest in your body by saying them out loud and then thank them for being there. Yes, honor even your faulty beliefs.

-Next, breathe them out of the body and create 3 new affirmations for a new way you would like to live or a new belief you would like to have.

Example Belief: I have a lot of money, therefore people SHOULD treat me a certain way since this money gives me power in some form.

When you say this belief, let’s say you feel it in the 3rd chakra.

Next: I thank you body for holding this, I no longer need you, I release you. Exhale.

Affirm: I treat others as equals, and when they reflect to me something I do not like, I examine myself.

Do you see the difference? One way has entitlement, and the other way has consciousness!

I thank you for reading for you are me and I am you. We are one. Your souls complete my soul. “I am made whole by your life. Each soul, each soul completes me.”~ Hafiz  Let’s heal this together. We are in this together.

Peace, Ariah Velasquez

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I get a lot of people coming to me with questions about the title of this article. Why do so many people on planet Earth seem to find relief through playing games to hurt, harm, get what they want, share a message without speaking it directly, or show someone they are hurt by hurting back? I see this as a wounded condition of some that are still waking up to the whole concept that we create our own reality. I also see this behavior coming from a place of people not spending daily time connecting to their underlying impulses, and subconscious issues. When we don’t spend time looking deep within on a daily level understanding what drives us, then we will tend to take actions that we feel are justified. We may say to ourselves, well if this person said that to me, then I am going to do this to them. This is the revengeful approach. Then their is the unconscious approach: well, I want to feel loved, so I will distance myself when I am afraid someone will not love me. These are just examples of the way humans play games with each other. Unfortunately, when it comes to these type of games, no one ever wins. And one of the biggest issues is that many times these actions are done towards others due to their own assumptions that something is happening, without ever discussing it with them or having proof. Sure, a person can have an intuition, but a lot of the time, interpersonal dynamics are misconstrued because of a person’s own wounding.

So, how do we deal with people that are doing these types of behaviors? We could choose to get angry, but that wouldn’t really solve anything, would it? In the past, I might have told myself or clients to talk it out with the person. However, what I have learned over the years is that if the other people are not willing to live from a non-blaming place, or if they are really not honest enough with self to explore their actions or role, a conversation proves fruitless. It just ends in pain. Psychologist Carl Jung said in so many words that communication is overrated. It made me chuckle when I first heard this because there is some truth to this. Communication really only works when people are really committed to trying to work things out. In compassionate communication techniques, there is a theory that as long as the other person is in a state of empathy, then the other one in conflict will come around. This may work 50% of the time…so then what?

Surrender and shift focus. Let them do what they do. Let them “win”, because it is only themselves they harm. Basically, ignore it. Do not put your attention on what they do. Do not even respond. If they come and meet you halfway with a loving action, that is when you respond. This is different than a game because you are choosing to focus on only positive energy. The intent is not to harm, and that is the difference. Then, if the person comes back at you with the old, less healthy energy, withdraw your energy again. You see, when you pay attention to things you don’t want, you merely attract it more. So it is taking the conscious stand to focus on loving actions and shift focus on all else. If they continue to use these manipulative behaviors in a way that is disturbing the homeostasis of your life, then it may be time if possible to shut the door. A Yogi tea bag said once on it, the purpose of life is to be joyful. I agree. Do not waste time and energy by focusing on people that take actions from unconscious places. And you know what else? Don’t worry about what they think of you. One of my favorite all time quotes is: it’s none of your business what other people think of you. True, so true.

Many people have lost their own family members due to what I speak of here, specifically in the lightworker community. This is because as you wake up to the truth of reality, you begin to see that all reflections are for information for you to heal. This means, that even the person doing the odd behaviors is there to teach you something and so you begin to be willing to sit vulnerably with others to resolve things. However, with these new skills, we also learn as lightworkers we may be disappointed when others haven’t quite reached that realization yet. In fact, when you sit with them vulnerably sharing with an open heart, they may even use that as a time to actually throw energetic darts. Yes, if this is in your reality, this may be trying to teach you something: to choose loving reflections. Sometimes the lesson alone is for you to detach from people and send them on there way, loving them as a soul from afar. You do not need to put up with abuse and games to be a lightworker. You merely need to live authentically. This can mean being aware when someone uses covert opportunities to harm. Choose those who vibrate from loving intention, truly. This may mean you find those to deeply connect with that are far and few between. That is why I believe many lightworkers keep to themselves and at times experience the illusion of loneliness. I believe once you are a person that is truly able to see beyond the actions of others, to see what is underneath, that knowing this information can sometimes bring up sadness as well. Yet, the less you focus on these actions, the more you will be propelled back to those that are of your true soul group of evolved beings. This statement is not a put-down for those that choose to play games. It is simply a matter of asking what kind of energies and feelings do you feel comfortable around. Trust your instincts. When something feels really bad, even if you may have a role in a dynamic, it probably is. It probably is a discordant energy that you are ready to release. This means releasing your part about it, and yes, sometimes releasing the person. This releasing of the person may be temporary. They may come around again and you will resonate with them in the future, but for now, accept what is. Accept what is and bless them on their way.

An exercise to release discordant energy:

Place the right hand over the left hand on the heart and say in your head or out loud:

My heart, I love you.

My mind, I love you.

I forgive myself for anything I have done or said that needs to be forgiven.

And I release my attachment to the unkind words or actions others have done or said to me.

I recognize my own beauty.

I believe in myself and in my dreams.

I am bountiful, I am beautiful, and I am blissful.

I AM.

I am at peace.

I am whole.

I am loved.

I rest in the light of this truth.

With much love,

Ariah Velasquez

We are one. Ariah is a counselor, Pleiadian healer, and New-thought minister. http://www.blissfullifecounseling.info/ariah-s-healing-blog

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Meet me!

Ariah Velasquez is a New-Thought Minister, Healer, and Counselor.  Ariah Velasquez was led to Mount Shasta from NYC to study Pleaidian Lightwork from Amorah Quan Yin about 12 years ago, at an ancient Egyptian based mystery school. She was trained as a psychotherapist through National University as a Marriage and Family Therapist (MFT) graduate.  After her time studying in Mount Shasta, Ariah began to develop deeply clairvoyant abilities and re-awaken to the bliss and oneness of her true nature.  She has now been working as a healer for 13 years and has most recently been providing services as a Spiritual Counselor.  Much of Ariah’s spiritual growth also came from the Deeksha Oneness Blessing of Amma and Bhagavan as well as through learning Kunlun, a bliss practice and path of enlightenment from Max Christensen, Taoist master teacher and Tibetan Lama. She has also received spiritual growth through her path of chanting mantra and Kundalini Yoga amongst many other spiritual teachers. Ariah is on this path from her deep desire  and purpose to dedicate her life in service to all that is as a devotional singer and healer of the soul.

 

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